What to do if someone you know
is in an abusive relationship

Tell them it's not their fault. You can never make someone else hurt you.
Tell them they don't deserve it. No one ever deserves to get hurt.
Tell them they are not crazy. A person who's been abused often feels upset, depressed, confused and scared. Let them know these are normal feelings to have.
Don't try to pretend like the abuse isn't happening, or that it isn't that bad. Let your friend know you take it very seriously, pretending it's no big deal doesn't make it go away.
Tell them good things about themselves. Let them know you think they are smart and brave. Their abuser is telling them they are stupid and tearing down their self-esteem.
Try to help your friend break out of the isolation their abuser has put them in. Keep in contact with your friend in class, on the phone or by going out.
Don't spread gossip - it could put them in danger.
Do not try to make them do anything they don't want to (it won't work unless it's their decision).
Encourage them to build a wide support system - go to a support group, talk to friends and family.
Don't blame them for the abuse or their decisions; leaving an abusive relationship Is hard and usually takes a long time.
See if they need medical attention - they may not realize the extent of their injuries.
Encourage them to take a self defense course.
Give them good information about abuse - you can call your local crisis line and get information and support.