What you can do BEFORE a violent incident:

Know how to identify your partner's levels of violence so you can assess danger to yourself and your children.
When possible, plan to leave before violence occurs, when your partner is not around and go to a safe place. Make arrangements with a trusted friend whom your partner doesn't know to help you and your children. Ask them not to tell anyone.
Notify a neighbor to be alert to strange noises and to call police when it happens.
If it is safe, get rid of all weapons in your home if your partner is nearing the violent stage or is in the violent stage of the cycle.
Teach your oldest or most responsible child to call 911, giving your name and address if a violent incident is occurring.
Know your local battered women's shelter number. Tehama County 1-800-324-6473.
Plan where you will go in an emergency or dangerous situation. Consider telling your employer not to talk with your partner until he/she talks with you first, if you believe your partner may come to your work place.

Escape Items

MONEY: Always keep some hidden. If not in your own home, in a place where you can have easy access to it day or night. Plan to have enough money for weekend motel rent, telephone calls (change), gas and food.
KEYS: Have 2 extra sets made for your car and home, one to put in a safe place and the other to a trusted friend.
EXTRA CLOTHING: Have a bag with at least 2 changes for you and your children. Consider the season and choose clothing that will benefit you.
Important documents: Have a copy or be able to quickly gain access to:
- Social Security cards
- Copy of monthly bills
- Driver's licenses
- Mutual ownership paper (house, car, etc)
- Birth Certificates
- Valuable jewelry
- Pay Stubs
- Address book
- Bank account numbers
- You and your child's medications
- Insurance Policies
- Marriage license